The person you want to become already exists in your mind. You just haven't met them yet.
Creating an alter ego isn't about pretending to be someone else. It's about giving yourself permission to become who you already want to be. It's a mental framework for bridging the gap between who you are and who you're becoming.
The questions that define your future self
Start by answering these honestly—not who you are today, but who you want to be:
Appearance and presence
- How do I look?
- How do I treat the people around me?
- How do I prefer to be treated by others?
Values and priorities
- What values guide my decisions?
- What are my top priorities in life?
- What do I want to be remembered for?
Daily life
- How do I envision my ideal day?
- When do I wake up in the morning?
- What time do I usually go to bed?
- Do I have any specific food habits?
Joy and fulfillment
- What brings me true joy?
- What are my biggest passions?
- What inspires and motivates me?
Relationships
- Who do I want around me?
- What kind of self-care routine nourishes me?
Growth and goals
- What are my financial goals?
- What new skills do I want to learn?
- How do I define success for myself?
Resilience
- How do I handle stress and challenges?
- How do I recharge after a long day?
- How do I maintain a healthy work-life balance?
Letting go
- What habits do I want to leave behind?
- What do I need to let go of to move forward?
The practice
Once you've answered these questions, you have a blueprint. Read it often. When you face a decision, ask: What would my future self do?
The gap between who you are and who you want to be closes one decision at a time.